As we head into the deeper part of the fall which for some of us will bring first quarter report cards and for others, our very first parent teacher conference.
Here’s what I know: the longer that I am a parent, the more I understand about how all of our worries don’t mean much at all.
We have been given this great opportunity to take care of another person in this world. And of course, we all want to do the very best that we can in that stewardship –
And we all fall in love with our children..
But..here’s the thing. We only have a little tiny fraction of control. And it’s mostly about whether or not they want their eggs scrambled or fried. Or boxers or briefs.
Recently, my daughter went through a neuro-psych evaluation to get a bit finer view on the way she learns. How her brain works. And here’s the thing…I can tell you right now that my daughter (fourth child of four) has the most adaptive life skills of any of my children. But her brain has this really hard way of figuring out the world. One that won’t work so well for certain tasks.
I have known this forever. Since she was tiny. Since she didn’t want to sit with me for “Goodnight Moon” or “Chicka Chicka Boom Boom”. Since then. Because here’s the thing. You know. You know right now. Those instincts that you have. Very much most of the time are right on. If you don’t listen to them, then they will become louder (or others will help you with this).
But here’s the point. None of us are all set. Or perfect. We are all just a jumble of feeling and brain and life. And none of us are perfect. Some of us are average at everything and some of us are crazy good at something. Remember this as parents. Take them as they are. Love them for who they are. Because they are beautiful.
And they are just right.